No matter what type of writer you are (fiction, technical, journalist, etc.), you’re going to experience your fair share of rejection. Though, nothing about rejection feels fair at all. You pour your heart and soul into crafting the best representation of your idea possible and someone reads half of it and throws it in the trash. Or, worse yet, they almost like it, it’s nearly good enough but it’s not quite good enough. The seemingly endless hours of drafting and editing and second-guessing and polishing all feel for naught the second that the rejection arrives.
It’s easy to let depression creep in when we are rejected. It’s natural to feel dejected and a little hurt when our creation is dismissed. But, we can’t afford to stay in that sad space for long. Writers have to be emotionally resilient if they are to succeed. This article offers some insight and ways to increase your emotional resilience so that stress doesn’t pull you down. You can also read rejection letters sent to famous writers to let you know you’re not alone.
Most of all, though, writers have to cultivate a sense of toughness, a thick emotional skin that will keep you from spiraling into doubt or depression. Of course, if you have been diagnosed with clinical depression, please consult your doctor for help. If you do not experience depression regularly and you find rejection pulls you down, then developing that thick emotional skin will assist you in dealing with being rejected.
Regardless of how you approach dealing with rejection, remember that you and your worth are not being rejected. Writers can conflate their self-worth with their track record. It can be overwhelming to be rejected. However, don’t let someone else’s opinion of something you wrote tarnish how you feel about yourself. After all, passing you over may be their biggest regret.